I look at the skills of observation of others. I also value my abilities in sharp perception and discernment. Like everyone else, I try not to throw stones even as all of us live in glass houses. Instead of throwing stones at others, I try to throw stones at myself. By throwing stones at myself, I try to discover the cracks in my own glass house. I exam the places where there are stress cracks, edge damages, and perform much needed improvement where I need to do some repair and remodeling.
Yet, it is evident the spirit of throwing stones is everywhere. The shelf life of throwing stones is too long. Society blames everyone but themselves when things don’t work to their advantage. Yet no one is setting the tone for improvement. Humans are governed by the mores and politics of the time. The failure in this is never realizing when to throw stones and when to gather stones.
Recently, society has noticed a surge of throwing stones and it has become an art form which is nursed, fostered, and perfected. Why are there those who constantly throw stones on the glass houses of others, without rationale and reasonableness, never consider the undeniable fact that they live in glass houses too? There is a reason. They have an unnatural preoccupation with retaliation. They undeniably believe in the ultimate goal of retaliation and upping the ante in escalation with throwing stones allows them to prove their magnified victimization for all to see.
Stone throwers have a narcissistic tendency to group people into categories: you are either for me or against me. They believe in trust and loyalty to only them and there is never a distinction between the two. They demand, ask, or enforce these expectations, especially when there is a power differential in place. There is a problem in this way of thinking. This way of thinking can only endure as long as the power differential is in place. Never do stone throwers consider and recognize the possibility that people have the right to make their own decisions about what is right and what is wrong.
Stone throwers also have a need to instill trepidation of the unknown to those they feel wronged them. The need to used scare tactics in order to bend those who fail to show support will become a liability. A person will never be afraid of someone who is too erratic and too disengaged even through pleasantries, cajoling and eventually some muscle.
Yet, there is an unhealthy obsession for expecting trust and loyalty, being defiant, and showing up any alleged enemy and injustice, real and imagined. Stone throwers habitually have to dominate and rise above their adversaries no matter the personal or professional damage they create. Rather than back down, there is a need to constantly breath new life into perceived slights and prolong them, instead of making the mature decision to move on no matter the cost. When this doesn’t work, throwing stones becomes an automatic defensive response to use on any criticism leveled at them.
When confronted, stone throwers are never the problem; it’s always someone else who is the problem. Stone throwers always offer inconsistent and intentional responses to their actions which they insist can be and will be corrected. Society knows better. Stone throwers are born to swim in shallow and salty waters; they swim in them every day and when caught, they drown in them.
So what is the solution to throwing stones? Society needs to remember they will always live in glass houses and if they throw stones, they should consider the person treating them for the cuts from flying glass may be the one they threw the stones at.