Throwing Stones

Throwing Stones

I look at the skills of observation of others.  I also value my abilities in sharp perception and discernment.  Like everyone else, I try not to throw stones even as all of us live in glass houses.  Instead of throwing stones at others, I try to throw stones at myself.  By throwing stones at myself, I try to discover the cracks in my own glass house.  I exam the places where there are stress cracks, edge damages, and perform much needed improvement where I need to do some repair and remodeling.

Yet, it is evident the spirit of throwing stones is everywhere.  The shelf life of throwing stones is too long.  Society blames everyone but themselves when things don’t work to their advantage.  Yet no one is setting the tone for improvement.  Humans are governed by the mores and politics of the time.  The failure in this is never realizing when to throw stones and when to gather stones.

Recently, society has noticed a surge of throwing stones and it has become an art form which is nursed, fostered, and perfected.  Why are there those who constantly throw stones on the glass houses of others, without rationale and reasonableness, never consider the undeniable fact that they live in glass houses too? There is a reason.  They have an unnatural preoccupation with retaliation.  They undeniably believe in the ultimate goal of retaliation and upping the ante in escalation with throwing stones allows them to prove their magnified victimization for all to see.  

Stone throwers have a narcissistic tendency to group people into categories:  you are either for me or against me.  They believe in trust and loyalty to only them and there is never a distinction between the two. They demand, ask, or enforce these expectations, especially when there is a power differential in place.   There is a problem in this way of thinking.  This way of thinking can only endure as long as the power differential is in place.  Never do stone throwers consider and recognize the possibility that people have the right to make their own decisions about what is right and what is wrong. 

Stone throwers also have a need to instill trepidation of the unknown to those they feel wronged them.  The need to used scare tactics in order to bend those who fail to show support will become a liability.  A person will never be afraid of someone who is too erratic and too disengaged even through pleasantries, cajoling and eventually some muscle.

Yet, there is an unhealthy obsession for expecting trust and loyalty, being defiant, and showing up any alleged enemy and injustice, real and imagined. Stone throwers habitually have to dominate and rise above their adversaries no matter the personal or professional damage they create.  Rather than back down, there is a need to constantly breath new life into perceived slights and prolong them, instead of making the mature decision to move on no matter the cost.  When this doesn’t work, throwing stones becomes an automatic defensive response to use on any criticism leveled at them.

When confronted, stone throwers are never the problem; it’s always someone else who is the problem.  Stone throwers always offer inconsistent and intentional responses to their actions which they insist can be and will be corrected.  Society knows better.  Stone throwers are born to swim in shallow and salty waters; they swim in them every day and when caught, they drown in them. 

So what is the solution to throwing stones?  Society needs to remember they will always live in glass houses and if they throw stones, they should consider the person treating them for the cuts from flying glass may be the one they threw the stones at.


Friend or a Foe?

Friend or a Foe?

If you are lucky, you have a friend who is there for you.  Most of the time, your friend helps you navigate through life’s troubled waters.  You create a unique bond with one another that no one can imagine or understand.  Time and distance could never diminish or destroy it.  But what about the friend who doesn’t have your best interests at heart?  What about the friend who feels they can wreak havoc, cause pain, and destroy relationships? What about the friend who feels anyone in their path is ripe for anger, criticism, and judgment?

What happened to being a friend who is open, honest, and trustworthy?  What happened to the code of friendship?  I know you who you are.  I see you.  You are the one who is always out for yourself.  You are the one who finds your niche in different ways being fair weathered.  You are the most important piece on the chessboard, but you are also the weakest.  You are the one who hurls unfounded accusations about everyone where no substantial evidence exists.  You are the one who chooses to stand on the sidelines while others engage in the game on the field.  You find this position easier for you because you can freely criticize and disparage other people’s actions with planned tactics and strategies.  You freely take advantage of everyone without concern or a thought for the fallout, especially at their vulnerable moments.  You’re only a friend when opportunity presents itself in the form of profit and pleasure.  You come out in the good times, but want to hide in the bad times.

The reality is time will move on and you will accept the inevitable.  You will realize not everyone has the same value systems as you do.  There are people who aren’t you who know how to treat others and that it is not easy to criticize or abandon those in need. You will realize you will need to take action and be a part of the solution and not part of the problem.  Be the person who is first to help and the last to judge

When Lying Becomes Truth

When Lying Becomes Truth

We have seen it and known it.  We have known liars are all around us.  We know this because directly and indirectly they have shown us and told us they exist.  On every level of society’s existence, there has been some unorthodox manipulation aimed at achieving common goals real and imagined.  This is why we should always question everything we are told and never take anything said at face value.  There needs to be a willingness to call everything seen and unseen into question and accept nothing less than an adequate explanation of the truth.

Yet, in this world we live in, we tend to believe the person who speaks to us.  The person who gravitates to us when our spirits are low and who come to us when we are at our weakest and vulnerable.  We want to believe their intent is to help us, but in reality, they want to engage in trickery.

What should society do?  What can society do?  Society needs to ask tough and direct questions and hold people accountable.  There are a variety questions that could be raised.  Many of these questions cannot be answered; however, the idea behind questioning is to provoke thought and get to the bottom of all of the confusion, contradictions and ignorance. A life of contradiction and short vague scenarios keep a framework of lies together and ensure everyone’s undue participation in the process.  Society is led to believe that you should forget conventional wisdom and live life in a trance.

For liars, any progress made toward truth is a source of anger and resentment.  A liar’s survival depends on the person who is so lost and afraid that they would believe anything and anyone at a moment’s hesitation.  Anyone choosing to ignore or show indifference to them exhibits denial and unfairness.

Throughout history, liars have benefited from the outward projection of their so called truth they created and deemed it normal.  When a liar’s normal becomes status quo and creates an establishment of what they deem is fact, it becomes a horrifying self-fulfilling prophecy of things to come.  A liar’s perception is the irony of those who still want to believe that truth and honor mean something.  Seating and eating at the same table which was promised at the beginning for all to partake from became unimaginable because it never had a chance to be a reality.

The bottom line is we all lie and we know that everyone is not going to tell the truth all the time.  However, when people constantly lie, we not only become dissatisfied with them, but we become dissatisfied with the things they represent.  As we lose faith in them and what they stand for, we lose faith in ourselves.